Is it just me or are there other women out there who wonder why our sweet husbands sometimes get on our nerves? I mean, he used to be sweet and extremely caring (saying the right words, doing the right things and etc) before we got married. But now…Hmm! When he was dating me he said all kind of sweet words to me, sent me several text messages every day, tells me how much he loves me and how desperate he is to make me his wife and live with me “… happily ever after”. He remembered all the special dates and did something special every year. He called over five times in a day to check on me, he opened the car door for me, held my hand to help me out of the car; he made me feel so wonderful and special. He sent me several surprise gifts; in fact one day he showed up in my office and made a ‘sweet little show’ of love. I loved it. I loved him so much for the sweet things he did to woo me. Even when some people thought he was not the best for me I paid them no attention because I saw his actions and it convinced me beyond every reasonable doubt that he was the man for me.
Now we are married and it feels like there is a little bit of change. Sometimes I have to ask him if he loves me before he responds sluggishly “I love you baby”. He wakes up and rushes out to work and when I text or call him he is always in a hurry and goes “…baby I got to go now I have a…” and he hangs up. When he comes back from work he is so tired that sometimes he sleeps off while having dinner and other times he dozes off while I tell him how my day went. The hugs are still there though, but a lot less than it used to be. Now I get hugged when he's about to rush off to work (when he remembers) and sometimes when he gets back (if I’m home). He kisses me like once (when he is in the mood) and for sex? You don’t want to know.
I talked with my friend Katy about it the other day and she told me that my case is a lot better and I was like “are you kidding me?”. Well, when she told me her story I ran home to go love my sweet Joe who is working hard to take care of me and our two kids and probably need a little bit more involvement from me than I am giving. I have always thought that if a man loves me he should come get me. True that, but again, I realized that a good man who loves you will go the extra mile to provide for you and sometimes in the course of that he will return home tired, harassed by work, boss and people ( that he comes home to me alone is a big show of love). I realized that I can bridge the gap between us even though I am busy too. If he is not texting me, then I can text him. If he is not calling then I can call him. Since he is at work it doesn’t make sense for me to call him and take all the time telling stories about how Tina offended our boss; I can call him briefly and tell him I love him and ask him what he would love to eat or what he will want to do when we get home. I learnt that when he is at work there is little I can do to help his day, but when he comes back home there is a lot I can do to make his “homecoming” pleasant, pleasurable and sweet. I didn’t know this but I have come to know that I can have a big influence on his day by what I do when he is home. Now I understand why God made the “…Sun to rule by day and the Moon by night”. I am taking my place and I am reigning in my domain. I have decided to give him a great memory every time he comes back home. I talk less and let him see more of me. I offer myself to be an effective and efficient “…help meet for him.”
I know ladies like to be chased and we expect the men to come for us, but this man chased me and got me, he is working hard to support me and our kids; there is nothing wrong if sometimes we switch roles. So sometimes I let him chase me and when he slows down I in turn chase him to bring his whole attention back to me. Love is give and take, sometimes you give and other times you take. If you want anything, give it and you should get it back. So far, it is effective and we both enjoy it when we have to be chased. Don’t be fooled ladies, men also like to be chased sometimes; there is always that element in all humans-we all like to be desired, petted and sought after. So does your man, if he does not do those sweet things anymore, it might be that it is your turn to chase him and win him back. If you love him, do everything godly, legal and what your heart permits you to do to get him coming for you.
I talked with my friend Katy about it the other day and she told me that my case is a lot better and I was like “are you kidding me?”. Well, when she told me her story I ran home to go love my sweet Joe who is working hard to take care of me and our two kids and probably need a little bit more involvement from me than I am giving. I have always thought that if a man loves me he should come get me. True that, but again, I realized that a good man who loves you will go the extra mile to provide for you and sometimes in the course of that he will return home tired, harassed by work, boss and people ( that he comes home to me alone is a big show of love). I realized that I can bridge the gap between us even though I am busy too. If he is not texting me, then I can text him. If he is not calling then I can call him. Since he is at work it doesn’t make sense for me to call him and take all the time telling stories about how Tina offended our boss; I can call him briefly and tell him I love him and ask him what he would love to eat or what he will want to do when we get home. I learnt that when he is at work there is little I can do to help his day, but when he comes back home there is a lot I can do to make his “homecoming” pleasant, pleasurable and sweet. I didn’t know this but I have come to know that I can have a big influence on his day by what I do when he is home. Now I understand why God made the “…Sun to rule by day and the Moon by night”. I am taking my place and I am reigning in my domain. I have decided to give him a great memory every time he comes back home. I talk less and let him see more of me. I offer myself to be an effective and efficient “…help meet for him.”
I know ladies like to be chased and we expect the men to come for us, but this man chased me and got me, he is working hard to support me and our kids; there is nothing wrong if sometimes we switch roles. So sometimes I let him chase me and when he slows down I in turn chase him to bring his whole attention back to me. Love is give and take, sometimes you give and other times you take. If you want anything, give it and you should get it back. So far, it is effective and we both enjoy it when we have to be chased. Don’t be fooled ladies, men also like to be chased sometimes; there is always that element in all humans-we all like to be desired, petted and sought after. So does your man, if he does not do those sweet things anymore, it might be that it is your turn to chase him and win him back. If you love him, do everything godly, legal and what your heart permits you to do to get him coming for you.
Enjoy!
Names mentioned is this article are fictitious and has no relation/connection to anyone you know.
Names mentioned is this article are fictitious and has no relation/connection to anyone you know.
